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Jun 06, 2026, 08:46 PM
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Sorry I am in the wrong thread. Im not new.
I am working towards learning to not be a sensitive person. On mother's day, my mother said a lot of hurtful things to me but she was just being herself. She didn't care about the flowers I bought her. She wanted my money and so I gave her a $100 and she insisted I used to give her $400. I don't know why she had to be so cold and her behavior is appalling to me. She told me I promised to give her money after my dad passed away. She insisted I promise to come back with more money on her birthday at the of June and she expects me to stay overnight for a few days. I don't even want to I have had time to think about. Yes, it was hurtful and it upset me but she isn't going to live forever. She is elderly. I might regret it if I become defiant now. I don't have any family of my own and so I should make peace with her because God isn't blessing me and it is what it is. I am hurt and angry but its life. I'll never get any apologies from anyone and that's how God designed my life. I told my coworker about it and she only told me to grow a skin and my mother will not live forever. I don't know why I was born terrified. My parents could skin a chicken and I am just useless. I am tired of this life. I never meet the right people. Everyone just always has a problem with me and I try my best to fit in but I am tired of not being my own person. Not allowed to have my own opinions because I feel like God decided that I am the black sheep of any scenario possible and just suck it up. Nothing is going to improve anyways. I can't make people behave kinder to me. I spend my days trying to learn French mostly through Duolingo and AI. But it gets boring. I am tired of learning French for hours every day. I feel like I can't stop myself from doing it too. By the way I am not a new member. How to move this to a proper folder? |
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Yesterday, 10:15 AM
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I think it’s appropriate forum as it’s about relationships
I am sorry your mother demands so much of you I am not sure what religion you practice but I am not sure how G-d designed this life for you, or decided thus or that for you. It sounds like you make lots of your own decisions. Like Duolingo. I have no patience for it but you do and it’s impressive You absolutely are allowed to have opinions. Don’t believe otherwise If you have money and want to help your mother it’s fine but maybe it’s better to do like grocery delivery or something? Is she in financial need? |
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Yesterday, 10:26 AM
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I too am not sure why you are obliged to give your mother money, is there a reason?
As for thicker skin, well you mention people having a problem with you, I think if that happens a lot it’d be normal to be upset. Do you have any idea of things you may do or say that people don’t like? |
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Yesterday, 03:19 PM
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A moderator must have moved it to this location.
I am not practicing any particular religion. I just meant these are my reality that I can't change. I am sick of Duolingo and wish I could speed up the learning process. I have been on it for 3 years and still don't feel confident that I could make conversations in French. And playing it for 6 or 10 hours a day is miserable for me. It feels like self torture because I am trying to get some paintings done but I feel like I can't. My mother doesn't need money. She only wants it to splurge on junk food for my siblings or the casino. For some reason, she thinks I am rich because I found a good office job. She is uneducated and elderly and never learned manners. Never taught me anything. Just did housework. She thinks I owe her. All of us are screwed up because of her. She is elderly so I can't change her. I struggled with finding a job and relationships because I was too sheltered. Now I am old but with a mind so indecisive with low self-esteem. I am struggling with confidence. |
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Yesterday, 03:27 PM
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Yes, I need a thicker skin because I told it to my coworker and she can't understand why I feel obligated or upset at my mother. Just grow up and have a think skin and forget the past. Most people have a problem with me because I am forgetful, have trouble with paying attention and I have an anxiety. I am not really someone can socialize and make friends because I always fear getting bullied or taken advantage of. |
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Today, 04:29 AM
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I am sorry you are struggling. Could you take language class? Or find a group in your area?
There’s a meetup in my area that’s for French speakers and I am sure if you join something like that, it would help to learn. You are under no obligation to use Duolingo, is it some type of compulsion that you have? And 10 hours a day? It’s certainly not something you need to do. If your mother doesn’t need money then tell her you can’t help at the moment. Growing thicker skin is easier said than done. I understand. I have extremely difficult dad. If you grow up with these kinds of parents, it’s challenging to break free Are you seeing a therapist? I think it could be helpful to address unusual Dualingo compulsion? |
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