My bosses never appreciate me.

NatalieJastrow · Apr 04, 2026, 07:35 AM

My current boss would be lost without me. From day one I worked as hard as possible to make him look good. I gave him all the tricks of the trade so he could cheat like everyone else. I did other people's jobs so he could get things done. He has never had anything go wrong.. and has no idea how wrong they can go.

So I have asked him nicely not to do something... that means I will have to go into work for a 15 minute meeting. Costing me $20 in commute fees. And general aggravation.

And he continues to ignore me and set down these 15 minute meetings which I will need to come in for on a day I don't have anything. When easily he could just do it on the next day when I will need to be in for something else.

Just a jerk move.

It hurts. I don't understand why no one ever thinks of me or my comfort?

I am considering calling out sick. I mean is that the way I have to be?

Molinit · Apr 04, 2026, 12:43 PM

It’s a job. It provides a paycheck. It doesn’t provide appreciation, satisfaction or comfort. All of that should occur outside the job. If you don’t need the job, don’t come in for the meetings. Some people have to go in every day for 8+ hours, it could be worse. Personally I need my job and would go in, but that’s me. Maybe you can get along without your job.

divine1966 · Apr 04, 2026, 03:28 PM

Being unappreciated by the higher ups is like many of us feel. That’s so unfortunate.

They take us for granted or elevate and reward selected few. We have a couple of people who are always in the bosses’ offices trying to socialize and they are the ones that get recognized. Those of us who have no time to socialize with the boss aren’t being recognized.

I have a few bosses, none of them are really bad and they treat me ok but I am not being constantly recognized the way they recognize others.

One is useless and acts afraid of me because I know more about the job. And the other one is a nice guy but he loves flirty young women who like to dress revealingly. I am not flirty or inappropriate so I am not being noticed

I hear you. Sometimes taking a sick day is the way to go.

divine1966 · Apr 04, 2026, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Molinit

It’s a job. It provides a paycheck. It doesn’t provide appreciation, satisfaction or comfort. All of that should occur outside the job. If you don’t need the job, don’t come in for the meetings. Some people have to go in every day for 8+ hours, it could be worse. Personally I need my job and would go in, but that’s me. Maybe you can get along without your job.

I understand your point but I absolutely disagree that it just provides paycheck. I had jobs that just provided paycheck. But if it’s a career job, the one you trained for, got educated and licensed and chose it for life etc people would like to be getting more than paycheck.

My job provides be with lots of satisfaction. But none of that comes from administration. It would be nice to be respected and appreciated by the bosses. It helps with overall morale. Helps with overall job and life satisfaction

I am sure OP needs her job or she’d not put up with her bosses and would be long gone

divine1966 · Apr 04, 2026, 03:38 PM

If job satisfaction wasn’t important, then administration wouldn’t be concerned about work place morale. Our bosses like to send surveys asking what could they do to increase morale. But they do nothing. No changes are ever made

Molinit · Apr 04, 2026, 06:09 PM

We get surveys too, but because nothing changes I stopped participating. I do what I need to do at work with no expectations of recognition and do what I enjoy after work.

PriyaForHerself · Apr 14, 2026, 02:34 AM

That feeling of giving everything and then having one small ask ignored is really deflating. I recognise that pattern of doing so much for someone that you start to feel like they owe you basic consideration, and when they don't give it, it stings more than it probably should.

I've been thinking lately about how much I give at work and at home and why I expect people to notice without me spelling it out. Calling in sick might feel satisfying for a day, but I wonder if it actually changes anything? Sometimes I think the harder thing is just saying directly, "this costs me $20 and a wasted trip, can we shift it?" Not a request. Just a fact. People often don't think of our comfort because we've never made them.

NatalieJastrow · Apr 15, 2026, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by PriyaForHerself

Sometimes I think the harder thing is just saying directly, "this costs me $20 and a wasted trip, can we shift it?" Not a request. Just a fact. People often don't think of our comfort because we've never made them.

Thanks everyone for the support. I have asked nicely before and he ignored me... so then I pitched a fit and seemed upset and he ignored me. Frankly I think in part he just can't remember. But it is very defeating that he can't remember. That I don't mean enough to him for him to even consider such a thing. Why am I not a person who others think of? What do I have to do to make that happen?

Where I am the type of person who would think of these things. For instance... I always make sure that I schedule meetings at the same time for various people if they are part of different meetings so they don't have to come in at various and sundry times.

Have Hope · Apr 21, 2026, 03:18 AM

Not everyone is as thoughtful of others like you are. That's the thing.

Here you are being most thoughtful of your boss's image, and you are working hard to make your boss look good. You ask one little favor, and it gets ignored, which like another poster commented, is deflating and demeaning. You would think, out of common courtesy, that your boss would accommodate your request to schedule meetings at a more convenient time.

But bosses often do as they please, without concern about how it effects their employees.

Maybe don't work so hard anymore to make your boss look good. Maybe just do your job, do it well, still be a team player, but call it a day and don't bend over backwards anymore for this boss.

Next time it happens, maybe tell your boss that it's a real inconvenience for you, but you will be there, as expected. Let them know.

I asked ChatGPT a question regarding this and here is the answer provided:

"An employee’s main job is to do their role well, act ethically, and support the team’s goals. A good boss may look good as a result, but that is a byproduct, not the core duty.

It is reasonable to help your boss succeed by being reliable and professional. It is not reasonable to be expected to protect their image at the expense of truth, fairness, or your own job responsibilities."

NatalieJastrow · Apr 21, 2026, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Have Hope

Maybe don't work so hard anymore to make your boss look good. Maybe just do your job, do it well, still be a team player, but call it a day and don't bend over backwards anymore for this boss.

Oh definitely but he sort of doesn't need me anymore. Not sure how you get your boss to like you if not doing the job well doesn't do it and so does doing the job well.

I work 8:30 to 5:00 pm and he knows I have to leave at 5 to get a train. He keeps putting events at 5:00 PM (that will delay me about 10 minutes).

When people tell you who they are... listen.

onehappygal · Apr 22, 2026, 10:49 AM

That is not right to do. I do appreciate my employees, they treat me with respect and I treat them with respect back taking care of them. I learned this from my late dad very well. My dad never lost an employee doing this before my twin brother and I took over the ownership of the towing yard after he passed 4 years ago. My employees at my two farms as well

NatalieJastrow · Today, 07:23 AM

So one thing about my position is that if you do the job well, it is considered the standard that your boss and you will be close. That there will be loyalty. It was one reason I got the position in the first place.

But my first boss was an abuser. And we were not close at all. It is well known that my first boss was an abuser -- and my current boss avoided him at all costs. So I am sure he was an abuser to him as well.

But now my current boss is a colleague to the abuser and has to tolerate him. And my abuser boss is in no position to be a jerk anymore and probably sucks up to my current boss.

My abuser boss is having a ceremony to honor him... 12 years after semi retiring. I won't be going. But I am disappointed and resentful that my current boss appears to be going. To me, the right thing to do is to make an excuse. There is no reason not to. There will be no consequences and out of loyalty to me... I think he should make up an excuse. If he doesn't have loyalty to himself.

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